IS THIS A RED FLAG OR I AM JUST OVER THINKING?

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 Please Keep Me Anonymous I met my boyfriend 2yrs ago at my previous work place, we got talking and he said he like me and he asked me out on a date, but i have a policy, i don't date my colleagues at work, this was in my head so i wasn't even catching any feelings but then we still stayed as friends. He wanted to be very close, he wanted to know more about me but i just kept him in the colleague relationship zone.  Few months after, i left the work place without informing him, he was disappointed at the fact that i didn't regard him as much as he does for me, i apologized and we continued talking, he asked me out again and this time he wasn't giving me any breathing space so i decided to give it a try. To tell the truth i was finding it difficult to trust him, i tried to open up to him like real couples should but i couldn't although i just broke up with m ex at the time so that must be the reason few weeks into the relationship i ghosted him. He started to look fo...
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Is it a crime to marry a Pastor?

 Please Keep Me Anonymous




I got married to a Pastor, No one forced me to marry him, i married him after my ex cheated on me with his cousin, he was having an affair with her so i taught that marrying a pastor would keep me emotionally safe, as he already knows these things are bad, he wouldn't dare.

He was a single father of two when i met him, i am also a single mum, and i have been doing very well for myself. we got married few month after we met, he already has a church he runs but his house was still uncompleted, i was doing very well in my business so i supported him with funds and in two month, the house was completed and fully furnished. I bought 2 sienna, i gave him one and the other for my business.

Ever since i got married to him, i showed him everything i had, i made sure the money i was making was going to his account so that he doesn't feel less of a man. i summited to him completely but he doesn't really acknowledge my effort. There is this particular woman that attends my husband church, she is very close to my husband, infact she goes in and out of our house like she own it , the day i tried to confront her she snapped at me and started saying all sort of words. She said she has a say in the house, she can make me stay in my husband's house or ask my husband to chase me away, i was shocked to my bone marrow, she was ranting like she was going to beat me up.

When my husband got back, i explained and he was supporting her saying she has been with him even before his ex-wife left him, he said she is his friend wife, his friend travelled abroad for over 10years and he kept her in his care so i shouldn't do anything to provoke her. Right there and then i realised i have made another big mistake in marriage. My ex-husband left me because i started a business that changed my finanacial status, he said he cant marry someone who i richer than him and now i married another disaster.

He only carries this woman around in the car i gave him, she dictates what happens in my house, she turned the church members against me, whenever anything happens they flip it and say it is my fault.

All of a sudden my husband said he want his children to start leaving with us since my daughter is leaving with me, i said no problem but it was that woman's doing, they started leaving with us and few weeks after my daughter stared to complain that my husband's older son is touching her her somehow. It got me scared, i started to teach her how to protect herself as i do not know how to tell my husband. 

As if that was not enough, the older son came and started to confront me saying that i shouldn't think any of their Dad's property will be willed to my daughter and i. He said everything belongs to him even the cars and the new house i am building, i began to wonder who was feeding this boy this kind of thing.

Just last week i came back for from work and the place was silent, it looked like no one was in the house but my husbands car was parked outside. I called my husband, he wasn't picking, i entered the house and entered our room to freshen up only to see this woman sleeping on my bed, my husband wasn't there wit her but his phone was on the shelf. i left not knowing what to do, Few minutes later my husband came with some stuff in his hands, i asked why she was sleeping in our room, he said she is not feeling too well and she need to rest. I am sure they are having an affair.

This is beyond me, what can i do? 

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