IS THIS A RED FLAG OR I AM JUST OVER THINKING?

 Please Keep Me Anonymous



I met my boyfriend 2yrs ago at my previous work place, we got talking and he said he like me and he asked me out on a date, but i have a policy, i don't date my colleagues at work, this was in my head so i wasn't even catching any feelings but then we still stayed as friends. He wanted to be very close, he wanted to know more about me but i just kept him in the colleague relationship zone. 

Few months after, i left the work place without informing him, he was disappointed at the fact that i didn't regard him as much as he does for me, i apologized and we continued talking, he asked me out again and this time he wasn't giving me any breathing space so i decided to give it a try. To tell the truth i was finding it difficult to trust him, i tried to open up to him like real couples should but i couldn't although i just broke up with m ex at the time so that must be the reason few weeks into the relationship i ghosted him. He started to look for me desperately, he reached out to me on all social media platforms but i never replied. He started to look for my relatives so they could reach me on his behalf. He finally found my sister and he was just on her neck to talk to me, she did but i told her i don't want to be in a relationship with him.

He didn't stop texting me on all socials for two year, After two years i began to feel the urge to talk to him again, i did and i got to know we was around where i was. we met and we started to talk again. I apologized and we moved on. We started to date again and this time i fell in love with him deeply.

He introduced me to his friend i also spoke to some of his family members and i did the same as well but there was something he kept on saying 'Babe there is something you should know but i don't think you can handle it now' i didn't pressure him until he finally told me that he got a lady pregnant few months before we got back together, he said he hasn't accepted it because he is not sure the pregnancy belongs to him as their meeting was supposed to be a one night stand.

I was so angry, this is something you should have told me before we got back together, how am i supposed to believe that you were not in a relationship with her and now you want to ditch her because you saw me or you are even cheating on her with me. He got all defensive saying if i didn't ghost him two years ago, he wouldn't be in this situation. I mean what does this have to do with telling me before we started dating again but then i told him no issues as long as he handles the situation well. 

I am really scared, i hope i am not in soup with this decision i made, he never showed me the lady but i have a feeling it is not just a one night stand girl. i don't want to take the wrong step please i need advice.

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